Walk In My Shoes

OK, now I might get in some trouble here, but so what! I cannot help but think that anyone who has never had to lose a significant amount of weight, or who has never had "food issues" could ever really comprehend, have compassion, or give advice to someone that does, or has! There, I said it! We all know, scientically, how to lose weight, (eat less, exercise more), but it's so much more than A+B=C....it comes down to motivation and readiness. Both of those things are not scientific.

Motivation. Can you give someone motivation? No. Can you say something or do something that might motivate someone? Yes. But what? I don't know. But, what I do know is that if you need to lose weight and get "in shape", you,

#1 do not lack will power
#2 are not stupid
#3 are not lazy
#4 are not a victim

You may not be ready....but you are,

#1 strong
#2 smart
#3 hard working
#4 deserving

When I listen to someone that has never gone through what I've gone through, try and tell some one how to lose weight, I just have to shake my head. I have to shake my head, because I know it's not just the information that's needed, it's the energy behind the information. And the energy from someone that has done it (lost weight) will always be different than the energy from someone that hasn't! That, I believe.

Now I'm not saying that there haven't been trainers, or coaches, that have helped people lose weight and get in shape, of course there has, and there are, but if you haven't walked in my shoes, I think there are still judgements made about those of us who have been, or are currently overweight. I don't have those judgements.

And because I don't have those judgements I can only give a certain amount of energy to someone asking me for advice. Yes it comes down to motivation, but maybe more importantly, readiness. Readiness and motivation go hand in hand. You may think you're motivated, but if you're not ready, you will talk yourself out of doing what you know you need to do.

So what am I trying to say? I guess I'm trying to say that I really understand.....really.....truly. Your life is good, and you derserve to look and feel your best, for yourself, and for your families, really, truly. You can do it, really, truly. You will do it......really.....truly.

Tracy