Thursday, March 8, 2007

You can Do What You Want

This whole "taking responsibility" thing has forced me to re-phrase alot of what I find myself saying lately. I realized quite a while ago the differences between "I wish" and "I want". I think alot of us could catch ourselves confusing the two if we really listened to what we say.

When I was heavier, I used to complain to Mark every once in a while that I wanted to lose weight. He would always quickly tell me that I didn't want to, because if I did, I would! I couldn't argue with that! That was true, I knew how (to lose weight), I just didn't want to, I didn't want it enough. I would've rather get caught up in the "unfairness" of it all, unfair that I would have to suffer, although I was suffering but in a different way (that's different post!)

So the other day when Mark and I were talking about, what else but, my diet, I knew it was time to re-vamp it because my goals have changed and what I was doing wasn't working (that's different post!). And he has been "Warrior Dieting" for quite a while now and it works great for him, in fact his bodyfat is lower than it's been since probably his bodybuilding days. And although he didn't suggest that I go back to more of a Warrior Diet style of eating, I was quick to shoot it down. (we were talking generally about different approaches)

I believe the conversation went some thing like this, (me talking) "I've been re-thinking the Warrior Diet again lately but I just can't do that (warrior diet), I can't wait to eat until 2:00, I need to eat earlier, I just can't do that, like you."

I knew right after I said those things, and after hearing them out loud, what I was really saying was I didn't want to. And that's when I had to remind myself, hey, I can do what I want.

I can do what I want. I'm in control. It's not going to kill me to not eat until 2:00. Why can't I do that? I'm just making excuses, (why? who knows, it doesn't matter right now!) I can do what I want!

So when it comes down to making changes in your life that you can control that will make your life better (that's different post!), lose weight, exercise more, make your lunch everyday, get to work on time, read to your kids, take your dog for a walk, clean out your car, clean out the garage, etc., you can do what you want.


FallenAngel said...

I totally agree with you.

Its not if we want it, its how bad we want it.

Tracy said...

fallenangel, And what gets us to the point of finally wanting it bad enough? For me it's usually fear! Fear of the consequences.